Non-monogamy

More and more people today are practising polyamory, open relationships and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. However, when looking for a therapist, people in “unconventional” relationships too often find that these relationships are pathologised. With many years of experience with diverse relationship styles – both in my own community and as a therapist – I am very comfortable taking each relationship on its own terms.

Sometimes a relationship can function poorly because one or more partner is not well suited to non-monogamy (though the same can be said of monogamy). In my experience, the issue is usually not anything so broad, but really a mismatch of specific expectations, desires and interpretations of relationship agreements. In my work with individual clients, I help them articulate more clearly what matters to them and hopefully be able to communicate that to their partners. With relationship clients, my priority is to usually to de-escalate conflict, helping each parter to slow down and really understand their own bottom lines, as well as what is being asked of them.

I am qualified to work both with individuals, or with two (or more) people who are in a relationship. For more information on this, please refer to my page on relationship work.